ON-CAMPUS VS. OFF-CAMPUS LIFESTYLES, THE REALITIES MY SISTERS MUST KNOW.
It is an unquestionable fact that upon gaining admission into a tertiary institution like a university, everyone has always had great and penchant desires to excel, do great things in future, and become better persons. Unfortunately, as the saying goes: "man proposes, but God disposes". Most times, we have always neglected some very vital things about our lives, leave them to the wind, and later on try to chase after them, only to realise that the wind had taken them away.
This piece goes to my beautiful sisters who have always thought that life is all what they see everyday on campus. Life's really good, but then we ought to get the understanding that it becomes better when we plan towards it, measure it, strategise and review every step as we go along.
I want to dwell on 'Marriage' and the kind of frustrations ladies go through after age thirty (30). Ladies after 30years have always tended to make a lot of wealth, live in their dream houses, drive their dream cars, live large, change clothes and do so many things at no one's control. But they soon realise that their dream man never comes along. They see guys and expect them to propose, but unfortunately they have always failed to realise that guys propose based on their assumptions and presumptions and the underground works/queries they carry out on ladies.
Naturally speaking, most guys that will go into a relationship that sees the lady have the upper hand financially, they have always had their own reason(s) why. Basically, they are mostly into it for monetary gains only to re-engage with other ladies elsewhere.
Guys that also come along to propose are always 'Married' ones who would want to play the 'Hit-and-run' crusade. They already have the resources, the cash and all that you could think about, so therefore other ladies have 'eyed' them and already occupied those positions. You too, have all the necessities of life, but lacking a comforter whom you would point your hand to as 'husband'. It isn't usually because the ladies don't have good characters or are disrespectful, but their positions or properties alone pushes men far away from them.
I would therefore want to urge my fellow sisters on the various campuses of the nation's universities and polytechnics to take things easy, try to lie low, reduce their high-time, hi-life syndrome and try to see whether they could build life-long relationships with their fellow students who might probably turn around to be their future husbands. If after completing school you think you aren't going to be a nun, please let's face the reality and settle down early with a trusted partner, such that our lives don't turn around to be frustrated after we have gotten all the pleasantries of life, only to weep bitterly alone in bed.
This in effect does not in any way mean that I am suggesting we should just hang out with any guy on campus, but steadfastly, we can realise some qualities in one or two guys who come our way, so therefore we could capitalise on those opportunities and secure our futures.
I have seen a lot of women in high ranking positions seeking for men to marry, only to used and dumped half-way, that is why I find it prudent to draw our minds to these salient points in order to help safeguard ourselves from future disappointments.
BEYUO JOHN PAUL
ABE POST GRADUATE STUDENT
PENTECOST UNIVERSITY COLLEGE
P.O.BOX KN1739
KANESHIE.
EMAIL: mwinbee1@hotmail.com
020 931 9095
It is an unquestionable fact that upon gaining admission into a tertiary institution like a university, everyone has always had great and penchant desires to excel, do great things in future, and become better persons. Unfortunately, as the saying goes: "man proposes, but God disposes". Most times, we have always neglected some very vital things about our lives, leave them to the wind, and later on try to chase after them, only to realise that the wind had taken them away.
This piece goes to my beautiful sisters who have always thought that life is all what they see everyday on campus. Life's really good, but then we ought to get the understanding that it becomes better when we plan towards it, measure it, strategise and review every step as we go along.
I want to dwell on 'Marriage' and the kind of frustrations ladies go through after age thirty (30). Ladies after 30years have always tended to make a lot of wealth, live in their dream houses, drive their dream cars, live large, change clothes and do so many things at no one's control. But they soon realise that their dream man never comes along. They see guys and expect them to propose, but unfortunately they have always failed to realise that guys propose based on their assumptions and presumptions and the underground works/queries they carry out on ladies.
Naturally speaking, most guys that will go into a relationship that sees the lady have the upper hand financially, they have always had their own reason(s) why. Basically, they are mostly into it for monetary gains only to re-engage with other ladies elsewhere.
Guys that also come along to propose are always 'Married' ones who would want to play the 'Hit-and-run' crusade. They already have the resources, the cash and all that you could think about, so therefore other ladies have 'eyed' them and already occupied those positions. You too, have all the necessities of life, but lacking a comforter whom you would point your hand to as 'husband'. It isn't usually because the ladies don't have good characters or are disrespectful, but their positions or properties alone pushes men far away from them.
I would therefore want to urge my fellow sisters on the various campuses of the nation's universities and polytechnics to take things easy, try to lie low, reduce their high-time, hi-life syndrome and try to see whether they could build life-long relationships with their fellow students who might probably turn around to be their future husbands. If after completing school you think you aren't going to be a nun, please let's face the reality and settle down early with a trusted partner, such that our lives don't turn around to be frustrated after we have gotten all the pleasantries of life, only to weep bitterly alone in bed.
This in effect does not in any way mean that I am suggesting we should just hang out with any guy on campus, but steadfastly, we can realise some qualities in one or two guys who come our way, so therefore we could capitalise on those opportunities and secure our futures.
I have seen a lot of women in high ranking positions seeking for men to marry, only to used and dumped half-way, that is why I find it prudent to draw our minds to these salient points in order to help safeguard ourselves from future disappointments.
BEYUO JOHN PAUL
ABE POST GRADUATE STUDENT
PENTECOST UNIVERSITY COLLEGE
P.O.BOX KN1739
KANESHIE.
EMAIL: mwinbee1@hotmail.com
020 931 9095
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